two-faced (adjective) 
-insincere and deceitful
“I soon learned that she was two-faced”

In a world called reality, it’s every man for himself.
It’s hard to trust people nowadays, even those you call friends.
Every day we encounter different kinds of two-faced people, they can be your co-worker, neighbor, or the person who goes to church every Sunday. They are easy to distinguish because of their distinct personality, but we also tend to ignore that such kind of person exists in our own set of friends.

Friends are the ones who accept you for who you are, but not everyone.

Characteristic of a two-faced friend:

  1. Taleteller. A friend who loves to talk about other people. Someone who enjoys spreading rumors and lies about a certain person. They backbite even their closest friend. The miserable the other person feels, the better they feel about themselves.
    2. Insecure. Someone who thinks she is in a competition with a friend who she thinks is better than her. This person can’t bear the thought of being less or inferior. Everything that seems better than her is a threat. She needs to be equal or above you.
  2. Jealous. Your happiness is a reminder of her unhappiness. She would say that she is happy for you but doesn’t act like it. She will give you backhanded compliments, a kind of compliment that should be taken as an insult.
  3. Copycat. Because she has a jealous personality and she doesn’t feel good about herself, she will copy what you have or she simply just want to be like you or someone else. Example: Friend1 bought a nice bag, and Friend2 admits that she likes it and that she will also buy the same bag but with a different color. And mind you, this happens a lot.
    5. Blabbermouth. The kind of friend who can’t keep her mouth shut. You tell her stories or secrets about yourself because you trust her, in the end she will tell other people about it.
  4. Attention seeker. Ah! The one who wants to be the center of attention. It’s all about her! When she talks, she wants people to listen. But when it’s your turn to share a story, she would go on her phone or act busy. She pretends to be listening but actually she’s not. Well, it’s not about her anyway!
  5. Selfish. She won’t help you if she thinks she won’t benefit from it. She only thinks of herself.
    8. Liar. She will make up stories just to get people on her side.
  6. Manipulative. She knows how to play with your mind and feelings. She will do everything to make things go her way especially lying.
  7. User. Yes, the so-called parasites. They will only talk to you if they want something. Considering the fact that they always ask things from you because they don’t want to spend their money. Better yours than theirs.
  8. Poser. A friend who always pretend that she is some rich queen bee or something. Example: A friend posting pictures on social media of an expensive restaurant or branded items, even if the picture was copied from google. They don’t feel ashamed. They’re used to it.
    12. Show off. A friend who is really confident of her looks or achievements that she would rub it to everyone’s faces. Example: A friend who keeps on telling you how many guys are into her.
  9. Scaredy cat. A friend you will defend every time someone says bad things about her. Unfortunately, she won’t do the same for you. Quote: “Such a disappointment when you defend someone for so long, thinking they are different, but they turn out to be just like what everyone said.”

How to handle a two-faced friend:

1. Acceptance. You should first recognize that this friend is two-faced. Once you accept the fact that she is like that, then it’s clear that you are dealing with a pretentious/ dishonest person.
2. Confrontation. Talk to her about how you feel, but remember to keep your guard up knowing that she will talk to other people about your confrontation. Make sure you have someone else (a witness) with you during your “talk” because this two-faced friend might change the story later on.
3. Stay away. Being friends with a double-faced individual is emotionally stressful. It is unhealthy. But you have the same set of friends, what now? Be civil in dealing with her. Avoid at all cost to share any personal details with her including your plans and ideas. She has the tendency to sabotage things at her own satisfaction.
4. Don’t gossip back. Don’t talk bad about her to other people as a way of revenge. Never ever go down to her level. You are much better than that. It’s up to other people to realize what kind of person she is.
5. Ignore. If she gossips behind your back, just learn to ignore. She is not worth of your time or feelings. You know yourself better than her. If people believe her, let them. At least you know which people deserve to stay in your life, and which don’t.

Two-faced people can be anyone, it’s only worst when you’re unaware that one of them is a friend.

© Pancake Bunnykins


Pancake Bunnykins

An Asian mermaid lost in transition.

I live in an enchanted forest at the end of a rainbow. I have a little window in my room where I can see unicorns playing in the grass field at day and magical fairies dancing under the silvery moon at night.


  1. Loved this! Unfortunately it took me years to learn how to deal with all these types and eventually eliminate most. I prefer a handful of quality friends than a bunch of artificial ones!

  2. Yes, exactly. I really agree with you on having a few or even one true friend rather than a bunch of artificial ones. I’m glad that you are able to eliminate this kind of people in your life. 🙂

  3. Thank you for the tips because i have a childhood friend and i know her for years and this is were I’m going with this is she act like she wants to spend her whole time with me and say that I’m like a sister to her but then i start to know that she ignore me at school like for example i hug her in front of her group and she did not hug back and pushes me away and it still happens so i will be smarter with her now but again thanks for helping me i just feel up set because of it. :'(

  4. There are really people like that. They’re just there when they need you. It’s not your loss though, someday you will find friends who will appreciate you, but she will never find a friend like you. 🙂

  5. I’ve delt with this alot in the last year with people I’ve bonded with. I had a friend i txted her about something i wanted her advice on and she texted me the beginning of the new year of this yr saying happy new year and im just now seeing your txt like really 2 monthes later???? that really hurted me so i didn’t reply back and i had one girl ive been known for yrs i wanted to talk to her about an issue which resulted with me txting the lady after her but anywho she called me everyday crying how her bf did this did that all her bills got cut of she was sleeping on the floor in there apartment no furniture no nothing treated her like dirt but still conviences herself he’s the one for her never met this man parents or nothing. But i needed her and she was like im listening but im not listening bodly talking to her step bother and im like for someone who had an ovary tumor cancerous cells you being ugly like that really stuck a fork in and then didnt here from her for two monthes either then txted me out the blue like she didnt do anything wrong and i had another female to do the same and im like um really so i ended up changing my number i didn’t want anything else to do with any of them period i dont have time for shady people especially if i allow you to get close to me and I’m very picky about who i interact with. This was some helpful information

  6. Thank you for sharing your experience. I hope everything is okay with you. I’m glad to hear how you managed to remove these people in your life. Sometimes we’re scared to let go of toxic people because we’re afraid to be alone. They only remember us when they need something, but most of the time they make us feel ignored. The moment we feel that a friendship is unhealthy, it’s better to let go of it sooner than hurt yourself in the end. I’m so proud of you. Lovelots 😍😘

  7. You describe the type well. Goddamn lizardpeople.

    I encountered one. An old friend who turned out to be not so friendly. I confronted him about his behavior, with 2 witnesses (mutual friends) and ample evidence.

    His reply was to definitively cancel our friendship.

    Soon later one of the witnesses died (mysteriously). The other stopped speaking to me.

Let me know what you think 🐰

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